Wednesday, May 23, 2012
You can go back to that place once called "home", but you can't go back home.
I've been back in that place lately--a lot, and every time I can't wait to flee. I grew up there; now I can't stand visiting.
The house is dark inside, dim and close. It was then, too, but I didn't seem to notice. It was even worse then, actually, because the walls were painted a dark green that absorbed what light they were exposed to. Since those years the walls have been painted a light neutral color. But yet it remains a dark house.
And it is too cluttered.
The top photo is my old bedroom. The bed I bought when I got my first real job after high school is still the centerpiece. A cherry wood single bed with a bookcase headboard. I took the other furniture I had bought when I moved out, but left behind this bed. I bought a new one when I left, because I married out of my parents home and needed a two person bed. It had a bookcase headboard as well because I was a veracious reader.
My old room looks like a scene from "Hoarders: Buried Alive" now. It is the "Cat's Room", but it is also the "catch-all" room from the looks of it.
To get to the bathroom, he must maneuver between a coffee table, that other large chair, a table, a display unit and the TV into another narrow hall. That passageway is barely wider than his walker. And he is a man prone to falling easily and when he falls he can't get up.
This is the view from the very cluttered dining room into the living room toward his chair. I would get rid of much of these obstacles as the path of good sense, but dad would have a cow if I moved something. "Mother wouldn't like it," he'd most likely say.
But mother isn't there right now and chances are high she won't be back to this place. If she should return, these will be obstacles to her as well.
(Again I mention the deception of the photos giving an appearance of light to these rooms that are not light at all.)
So why am I back here in these rooms after so many decades. That's is the tale I am beginning to tell.